Princes William and Harry admit they never spoke properly about their mother's death

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Prince Williams and Prince Harry have admitted they failed to talk to each other enough about the death of their mother and that not doing so only made matters worse.

Speaking candidly about the trauma they endured as children when their mother Diana, Princess of Wales, was killed in a car crash in Paris, the Princes urged people to be more open with their emotions.

William and Harry acknowledged in a video with the Duchess of Cambridge, released on Friday as part of their campaign to tackle mental health in Britain, that they had bottled up their feelings about Diana’s death in 1997 rather than sharing them.

Diana, Princess of Wales, takes Prince Harry and Prince William to school

Diana, Princess of Wales, takes Prince Harry and Prince William to school

In the video for their charity Heads Together, Prince William states: “We’ve been brought closer because of the circumstances. We know we are uniquely bonded because of what we’ve been through, but even Harry and I over the years have not talked enough about our mother.”

At this point Prince Harry adds interjects: “No, never enough” before adding: “I always thought to myself ‘what’s the point of bringing up the past, what’s the point of bringing up something that’s only going to make you sad? It ain’t going to change it. It ain’t going to bring her back.’”

But Harry goes on to say that he had been wrong and that this attitude had only hindered his ability to cope with what had happened.

“When you think like that it can be really damaging,” he said.

 In a six-and-a-half minute video, filmed on Wednesday outside their home in Kensington Palace, the three young Royals reflected on the Heads Together campaign they have worked on for nearly a year.

They each spoke of their motivations for taking part in the mental health drive, with the Duchess reflecting on motherhood, the Duke on his experience of male suicide through his work as an air ambulance pilot, and Prince Harry on veterans.


Prince William on Diana's death: you never get over it


Prince William on Diana’s death: you never get over it


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The young royals have made mental health their main focus of the last year

The young royals have made mental health their main focus of the last year

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Prince William, Prince Harry and Diana, Princess of Wales photographed at Thorpe Park in 1993

Prince William, Prince Harry and Diana, Princess of Wales photographed at Thorpe Park in 1993

On Monday, Prince Harry  revealed in an interview with the Telegraph, for Bryony Gordon’s new podcast Mad World, that he had sought counselling after failing to properly address his grief over his mother’s death.

Prince William and Prince Harry with their mother, Diana

Prince William and Prince Harry with their mother, Diana

He told how he had endured two years of “total chaos” after burying his head in the sand, and later said he felt he was “just doing my bit” by opening up.

The Duke was later seen in a BBC documentary speaking about the death of Diana, Princess of Wales, admitting he still feels the “shock” ever 20 years on. 

The image of Prince William, 15, and Prince Harry, 12, walking behind their mothers coffin with the Prince of Wales, Duke of Edinburgh and Earl Spencer

The image of Prince William, 15, and Prince Harry, 12, walking behind their mothers coffin with the Prince of Wales, Duke of Edinburgh and Earl Spencer

“You never get over it,” he said, during Mind Over Marathon. “It’s such an unbelievably big moment in your life that it never leaves you, you just learn to deal with it.”

On Thursday, the Royal trio visited a new school, the Global Academy, where the Duchess spoke of her own experience after becoming a new mother, saying it was “lonely at times” and isolating.

Duke and Duchess of Cambridge and Prince Harry during a visit to open the Global Academy

Duke and Duchess of Cambridge and Prince Harry during a visit to open the Global Academy

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The video is the last in a series of short films from Heads Together, released at intervals in the run up to the London Marathon in a bid to maximise awareness. 

Previous efforts have featured the likes of Andrew Flintoff, Stephen Manderson (better known as the musician Professor Green) and Alastair Campbell.

The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge and Price Harry in their Heads Together headbands

The Duke and Duchess of Cambridge and Price Harry in their Heads Together headbands

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Ruby Wax spoke to her husband, director Ed Bye, about the moment she revealed she was “mentally ill” moments before they tied the knot in a registry office

In a joint statement last month, the Duke, Duchess and Prince Harry said:  “Attitudes to mental health are at a tipping point. We hope these films show people how simple conversations can change the direction of an entire life.”


William Kate and Harry open The Global Academy


William Kate and Harry open The Global Academy


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The Heads Together campaign culminates in the London Marathon this Sunday, where around 700 runners including the Telegraph’s Bryony Gordon will embark on 26.2 miles in aid of the charity.

A further 39,000 branded headbands will be available to any other runner who wishes to show their support for Heads Together, in recognition of how mental health affects copious other good causes.


Bryony Gordon's Mad World: Prince Harry


Bryony Gordon’s Mad World: Prince Harry


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The Duke, Duchess and Prince Harry are understood to have actively explored taking part in the marathon themselves, but will not be running on April 23 and will instead attend the route at intervals to cheer runners on.

For more information on mental illness or where to find help, visit Heads Together